Song of songs 4:12 "You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain."
As teenagers and even young adults we choose to date more times than none, and with dating comes a huge responsibility and temptation. This temptation is sex and or sexual actions. Sex is something God intended as a gift for married couples, it is not something to be done casually and is not something to give to someone you are not married to, no matter how close you are. It is said to be one of the greatest gifts ever, but if you open it before you are supposed to, the surprise is spoiled.
So many people I know, and people I don't really know are so quick to just give their purity away and I just don't understand. In Song of songs this man ADORES his bride for all of her features and everything about her, but one thing he values the most about her is her purity, and in my opinion, this is the way it should be. The man who TRULY loves you, will LOVE to wait for marriage, and will value your purity as much as you should.
Me and my boyfriend went to a Christian Concert called Hot Hearts back in January and one of the subjects brought up was purity. The preacher there, Clayton King, informed us that him and his wife were both sexually pure when they got married and he made a really great point:
NONE of us really know what God has in store for us. We don't know His plan and we never will. No matter how long we have been dating a person, or how much we love them, we don't know if that is actually the person we are going to marry until the day of our marriage. And if you make a mistake with the wrong person before the day of your marriage, then its just a heartbreak.
If we wait until we are married we will never have to compare our spouse to past partners, and if you marry someone who is pure then you will never have to wonder if you are "the best they ever had" because you will be their one and only. So don't be so quick to give your purity away. Give it to the one you marry. To the one who is already committed to you for life, and you will never regret it.
P.S. Alsoooo a great book to read is "Love, Dating, and Other Insanities: Relationships without Regret" by Clayton King.